Relationship: Moving Your Love Life From Good To Great

Time, although a good thing, is also something to watch out for in every relationship. As the years pass by and we become accustomed to those people we claim to love, we usually tend to forget those things that made being in love interesting. Its always easy to assume that with time our partners would know us better and inadvertently be able to guess what we need or want. Unfortunately this is never so because, it is next to impossible for your partner to read your mind to tell what you expect them to do every time. The simple truth most people tend to forget is that every relationship requires as much work to sustain it as when it was just getting off the ground. To better help you understand those seemingly simple things that remain important even years into your relationship, here are a few tips.
Do The Things You Did The First Year Of Dating: As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweatpants and get lazy in our relationship. We lose our patience, gentleness, thoughtfulness, understanding and the general effort we once made toward our mate. Think back to the first year of your relationship and write down all the things you used to do for your partner. Now start doing them again.
Ask For What You Want : Over time we assume that our partner knows us so well that we don’t need to ask for what we want. What happens when we make this assumption? Expectations are set and just as quickly, they get deflated. Those unmet expectations can leave us questioning the viability of our partnership and connection. Keep in mind that “asking for what you want” extends to everything from emotional to sexual wants.
Be An Expert On Your Partner: Think about who your mate really is and what excites him or her (both physically and emotionally). We can become consumed by what WE THINK he/she wants, as opposed to tuning in to what truly resonates with the other person. Remember that if it’s important to your partner, it doesn’t have to make sense to you. You just have to do it.
Don’t Ask ‘How Was Your Day’ : At the end of a long day, we tend to mentally check out of our lives and consequently, our relationship. We rely on the standard question, “How was your day?” Generally, that boring question will yield a boring answer such as, “Fine, how was yours?” This does nothing to improve your connection and instead, can actually damage it because you’re losing the opportunity to regularly connect in a small way. Instead, try asking things like, “What made you smile today?” or “What was the most challenging part of your day?” You’ll be amazed at the answers you’ll get, with the added benefit of gaining greater insight into your significant other.

Keep It Sexy: What might change in your relationship if both you and your partner committed to increasing the behaviors you each find sexy and limiting those that aren’t? Think about this in the broadest form. “Sexy” can certainly refer to bedroom preferences, but it also represents what excites us about our mate in our day-to-day lives. Do you find it sexy if he/she helps with the housework? Do you find it “unsexy” when he/she uses the restroom with the door wide open? Talk about what it specifically means to “keep it sexy” in your relationship. Be amazed, be humored, be inspired!